Family relationships are interesting and ever changing
depending on circumstances and different people. That’s part of the reason why
there are so many problems that arise between newlyweds. Different issues that
arise between newlywed couples include adjustments to in-laws, different daily
routines, finance issues, different gender roles, birth control decisions,
boundaries between family members, and countless others. I appreciate
discovering some of these things now while I am dating because I can watch out
for them as I look for a spouse. Any two different people are going to have
differences so what is key is finding someone who I share enough similarities
with and someone who can coexist and is then willing to intertwine customs with
me.
Something that has especially been on my mind is the problems that arise when children come into the picture. The trend associated with married couples’ relationships is that they suffer with children – each child added to the family brings more difficulty and stress upon their marriage. Once the children begin to leave the nest they reach ultimate happiness again and there are some things that can be done to avoid these “baby blues”.
A few things stuck out to me in particular as I participated today in class discussion. Number one, a couple has to maintain communication. Communication is key to a successful relationship; but more importantly positive communication. Even when a couple disagrees, it is always important to recognize ideas and different perspectives and to appreciate them. Care about what the other person has to say. Also, it is essential to be considerate. These may seem like simple things to consider but these are the concepts that are so often overlooked. When any challenges come about, realize that each partner may be struggling and that being a wife/husband/mother/father is hard work. One of the biggest points though – is to make sure that you do not portray your children as a burden. When a husband comes home from work, he shouldn’t hear “Ok, here ya go! Now it’s your turn!” No, he should be able to have the opportunity to enjoy his wonderful children. This is a concept that I need to apply to my every-day life. For instance when serving in a leadership position, it is easy to see others as a problem rather than as people. This is something to be avoided. I need to realize that each son/daughter of our Heavenly Father is just that – a blessed son or daughter who are unique and serve a special purpose with his/her own unique talents and qualities.
Something that has especially been on my mind is the problems that arise when children come into the picture. The trend associated with married couples’ relationships is that they suffer with children – each child added to the family brings more difficulty and stress upon their marriage. Once the children begin to leave the nest they reach ultimate happiness again and there are some things that can be done to avoid these “baby blues”.
A few things stuck out to me in particular as I participated today in class discussion. Number one, a couple has to maintain communication. Communication is key to a successful relationship; but more importantly positive communication. Even when a couple disagrees, it is always important to recognize ideas and different perspectives and to appreciate them. Care about what the other person has to say. Also, it is essential to be considerate. These may seem like simple things to consider but these are the concepts that are so often overlooked. When any challenges come about, realize that each partner may be struggling and that being a wife/husband/mother/father is hard work. One of the biggest points though – is to make sure that you do not portray your children as a burden. When a husband comes home from work, he shouldn’t hear “Ok, here ya go! Now it’s your turn!” No, he should be able to have the opportunity to enjoy his wonderful children. This is a concept that I need to apply to my every-day life. For instance when serving in a leadership position, it is easy to see others as a problem rather than as people. This is something to be avoided. I need to realize that each son/daughter of our Heavenly Father is just that – a blessed son or daughter who are unique and serve a special purpose with his/her own unique talents and qualities.
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